Never has it been such a confusing time to be a mum. The government have invested huge amounts of time and money encouraging mums back to work after having a child and many feel huge pressure from their employers to return to work quickly. Equally society does not reward stay at home mums either financially or with any status and this lack of respected identity also can push women into feeling they must work again. Ultimately most 21st century mothers are seeking the out of reach home/work balance. Mothers struggling under a torrent of conflicting parenting advice are told that nurseries will damage their children, the naughty step is counter-productive and that toddler misbehaviour is their fault.